By: Janet L. Hall
Most of my adult life I’ve been told by a variety of different
people that “You’re the strong one,” and “You have a lot of
courage”. However I must confess, some days I don’t always
feel strong and at times I don’t have a lot of courage, especially
when it comes to something new, strange, different, or painful to
deal with. Sound familiar?
However, I’ve developed 12 tips to assist me (and you) when
I want or need to have courage and strength to change the things
I no longer want, need, or love in my life and to move through
the old and embrace the new.
You see courage is the opposite of withdrawing from things that
are seen as difficult or painful.
Courage is all about getting involved, your attitude or your
response of facing and dealing with the things you want to
change in your life; whether it be getting organized, getting
healthier, having more time, changing jobs, having a family,
moving, leaving a loved one, and even playing more.
Courage is becoming brave and fearless; moving towards and
through the change you want to make.
So the question is how do you find or discover the courage to
change?
1. Awareness: Become aware of what you want to change.
Write it down and own it.
2. Release Old Beliefs: Question, understand, and uncover
your’s and other’s beliefs you’ve been carrying around with you
since childhood and ‘testing’ to see if there are true for you and
your life.
3. Put Yourself First: Say YES to you and no to others. You are
the most important person in your life!
4. Acceptance: Honor yourself; what you feel about the change
and where you are now in your life.
5. Permission: Give yourself permission to be strong, have
courage, and change and tell yourself it’s okay.
6. Commitment: Be committed to the change you want to see,
do, be or have.
7. Independence: Let go of the emotions and need for others,
stuff, or food to ’survive’. Look to yourself for happiness, not
others.
8. Willingness: Risk and walk through the fear or pain so you can
begin to grow and change.
9. Forgive: Be forgiving of yourself if “you slip” or are criticized.
10. Action: Take the necessary steps and actions towards
courage and change.
11. Become Receptive: Be accepting and open to receive a
wondrous, new, and yes different life or way of doing things.
12. Gratitude: Give thanks and respect yourself for what you
have accomplished!
And if you need assistance and strength read the beginning of the
Serenity Prayer:
“God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.”
When you find courage you’ll begin to experience great
accomplishments, master your life and begin to really experience
your life more fully! I wish you well, strength, and courage.
Mother Earth has certainly been going through a lot of changes in the short two months of 2010 hasn’t it?
Many of us have experienced these changes first hand in the form of snow and blizzards, earthquakes and tsunamis, and floods and fires.
Yes, Mother Nature sure has been “wrecking havoc” for many.
In our personal lives life might be changing in the form of breakups, moves, lost jobs and incomes, addiction, recovery, or relapse, lost homes and family members, holding on and letting go, illness and disease – and the list goes on and on.
Yes, change is in the air for better or for worse.
Change is the rhythm and cycles, the Yin and the Yang, the ebb and the flow, the highs and the lows; whatever and however your refer and respond to change is important.
You see we all go through changes from the time of conception until death (even then change continues) and if we’re not changing we become stagnate, stuck, powerless, and victims. And this my friends not only affects you it also effects each and every person you come in contact with.
Our attitudes, out thoughts, our words, our actions can and does impact everyone from the postal carrier to your loved ones, to the stranger on the sidewalk, to the cashier at the grocery store.
How we “handle ourselves” in times of change tells much about a person.
A person whom carries around fear, anger, hate, and misery generally dislikes any kind of change. The fear of not knowing what will happen next, the anger that things aren’t the same anymore, the hate for the weather or family member that is causing such chaos, and the misery one imposes on themselves or others can be very overwhelming and hurtful.
On the flip side a person whom carries around trust, joy, love, and gratitude generally welcomes change because they know change is inevitable, it must occur. Trusting that all is well or the Universe knows what is best for them at this time, discovering the joy in lessons to be learned, loving each and everything, no matter what, with no strings attached, and truly grateful for all that they have, whether it be a little or a lot.
If we can evaluate or accept change from a place of calm and from an inner knowing “that this too shall change” then we’ll be a much happier person.
Happiness and acceptance begins in the heart, living from your heart instead of from your head.
When we release the fear we discover courage and trust.
When we release the anger we discover joy.
When we release the hate we discover love.
When we release the misery we discover gratitude.
When we release the excuses we discover the how’s.
When we release we discover the true path we are required to take, to go with the flow, and to be able to enjoy and say yes to life.
Yes, change is always in the air no matter the season, where you live, or whom you’re with – the question is will you welcome change with an open heart or push change away with a closed mind?
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